On this episode of Rhodes to Success, I interview Kim Ades, who is the founder and president of Frame of Mind Coaching and Journal Engine Software. Kim is an author, speaker, entrepreneur, coach, and mother of five. She is one of North America’s foremost experts on performance through thought mastery and mental focus. Kim uses her unique process of integrating online journaling into her coaching. During the show, we discuss the importance of journaling, overcoming barriers, examining thought, thinking differently, emotional resilience, and why balance is overrated.
Main Questions Asked:
- Talk about journaling and how you use it in your coaching.
- Is there a barrier to be overcome when it comes to journaling?
- Talk about the separation of a journal for personal life and business.
- How do you help people think differently?
- What is emotional resilience?
- Talk about leadership and how you train people to be leaders.
Key Lessons Learned:
- Your thinking determines what you achieve.
- Kim coaches highly driven individuals who have three things in common:
- Big goals.
- Make a difference in the world.
- Spirited people who want to live an extraordinary life.
- This helps get to the source of beliefs, values, behaviors, and patterns.
- If you are not working with a coach, then journaling is a vehicle for personal awareness and insight.
Barriers to Overcome
- The contents of the journal are an entry point to starting a dialogue and going deeper.
- Even if what is presented is a rosy version and not quite the truth, it is able to be drilled down to get to the heart of the matter.
Personal Versus Business
- There is no separation.
- The way you think in one area of your life will affect how you think in another area.
- Journaling looks at how your thinking impacts your outcomes.
- When your thinking aligns with your goals, your behavior follows.
- This is less about managing behavior and more about shifting thought.
- If you always think what you always thought, you will always get what you always got.
- The belief lays the foundation.
- Are your beliefs leading you toward your goals?
- Beliefs are inherited from our parents, environment, friends, peers, and the media.
- With gradual shifts and beliefs, people can experience extraordinary outcomes.
- This is the ability to bounce back from adversity with great speed and agility.
- This is about leveraging adversity and doing something positive with a negative experience.
- People with a higher degree of emotional resilience will be more likely to succeed at anything they do.
- Leaders need to understand the role they play in the organization and that their thinking impacts their team more than any other factor.
- Reinforce leaders with coaching skills.
- Leaders are adept at punishing when there is a problem and promoting when there is a success. This creates inequity.
- It’s important to coach your team and not manage it.
- The way a leader sees their team is how they will show up.
- Leaders tell stories about those who are around them. Don’t bring your story into the dynamic of the team.
- There is a correlation to how someone was parented to how they lead.
The music in today’s episode was written by The Danger Os and produced by Nick Palmer. Check them out at https://www.facebook.com/thedangerosmakemusic
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